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Nancy Fursetzer, Positician Coach and Trainer

Nancy Fursetzer, founder of the Positician Training Institute, refers to herself as a Positician®. “Positicians focus on the positive,” she explains. “Every situation, no matter how grim, can have a silver lining. Often it takes an outsider to point that out. I am trained to listen.

“The word 'positive' is derived from posit, meaning 'to position.’  People can be trained to reposition their thoughts.”

, known for her upbeat attitude, confesses, “I wasn’t born this way. It took years of heartache to realize I created my own pain, and I can un-create it. Now I teach others to do the same.”

After working as a hospice volunteer and trainer, coupled with her past experience as a sales manager and motivational speaker, Nancy has taken her positive attitude into the workplace. The Positician Training Institute offers classes and services designed to “Awaken your Optimism!” through the comfort of active listening, and the healing power of words.

Nancy, recipient of the Champions of Health Award from Blue Cross Blue Shield, is educated in communication, spiritual direction, 12-step recovery, hospice, positive psychology, and is introduced in Marci Shimoff’s bestselling book, Happy for No Reason.

"Why are you so positive – what choices and experiences led to that?"

I’m very rebellious! Like many of us, I grew up in an environment with schoolyard gossips and bullies; where people complained about weather, neighbors, and the state of the world; where most conversations focused on the “worst case scenario.” I challenged myself to turn every negative into a positive.

Even in my home, where I knew I was cherished, love was expressed through over-protection, fear, worry, and negative thinking.
Attempting to fit in, I often kept my optimism to myself, yet inwardly I was searching for the “best-case scenario,” simply because it felt better: “Hopeful” felt better than “helpless;” “Maybe” felt better than “never;” “You’ll never know till you try” felt better than “why bother?”

By the time I reached adolescence
, my “positicianing” defied authority. The more I was told I couldn’t do something, the more I was determined to point out the positive side of every situation. Sadly, however, I allowed negative influences to permeate my beliefs. On the surface, I argued and engaged in power struggles, just to prove I was “right;” but inside I felt lost and alone. My ultimate frustration led me on a journey through depression, drugs, eating disorders, and feeling utterly incapable of accomplishing my deepest dreams.

I survived through words of comfort and support, from friends and strangers, and by reading the wisdom of others who’d traveled this path before me. I returned from the brink of teenage suicide simply by focusing on a poster that read, “No doubt the Universe is unfolding as it should.”

I latched onto that phrase and have carried it through my life. At that young age of 18, when I thought I’d had all the suffering I could take, the real “pains” of life were just beginning – and so was my ability to transform them into gifts.
I married a wonderful man, have 3 beautiful children, and live a magnificent life of my own making. Still, as many of us do, for the last 25 years I have lived personally, or vicariously through loved ones, with mental illness, depression, obesity, addiction, near-death trauma, brain injury, cancer, and various forms of disappointment, disability, loss, and grief.

Consequently, I've witnessed miracles. I’ve experienced resiliency, gratitude, appreciation, hope, determination, grace, and joy beyond reason. I’ve gained self-esteem by doing “esteemable acts,” serving others, and accepting that the Universe is unfolding as it should.

I accept I
can’t change what happened. But when I change how I THINK ABOUT what happened, a whole new world emerges. Lessons are learned, patterns are broken, experience translates into wisdom that can benefit others. In this light – with time – bigger pictures emerge. The good that I strive to uncover rises to the surface in grand style – a new job, a new friend, a new home, new opportunities that would not exist had it not been for past adversities. And the funny thing is, my pain – even in the moment – is lessened. I judge few things as “bad” or “wrong” anymore. It’s all “just information.” And I get to choose how to apply it to my life.
When I look at the Big Picture it’s easy to see the gifts outweigh the pain.

I listen to others tell their stories. I listen with an open heart and mind, what we call “Hospitality of the Heart.” Because of my experiences, I never discount or dismiss their discomfort – on the contrary, I first had to acknowledge my pain in order to reposition it in my thoughts.

A simple nod of understanding builds trust which creates connections, breaks the isolation, kindles hope, and Awakens our Optimism!

All material copyright 2008 by Silver Linings Inc. Contact Nancy@Positician.com